PERSONALITY STRENGTHS AND LIMITATIONS
Directions: Select the word or phrase that best describes what you are like most of the time. Be honest!

1. a) opinionated b) nurturing c) inventive d) outgoing	2. a) power-oriented b) perfectionist c) indecisive d) self-centered
3. a) dominant b) sympathetic c) tolerant d) enthusiastic	4. a) self-serving b) suspicious c) unsure d) naive
5. a) decisive b) loyal c) contented d) playful	6. a) arrogant b) worry prone c) silently stubborn d) flighty
7. a) assertive b) reliable c) kind d) sociable	8. a) bossy b) self-critical c) reluctant d) a teaser
9. a) action-oriented b) analytical c) easygoing d) carefree	10. a) critical of others b) overly sensitive c) shy d) obnoxious
11. a) determined b) detail conscious c) a good listner d) a party person	12. a) demanding b) unforgiving c) unmotivated d) vain
13. a) responsible b) idealistic c) considerate d) happy	14. a) impatient b) moody c) passive d) impulsive
15. a) strong-willed b) respectful c) patient d) fun-loving	16. a) argumentative b) unrealistic c) directionless d) an interrupter
17. a) independent b) dependable c) even-tempered d) trusting	18. a) aggressive b) frequently depressed c) ambivalent d) forgetful
19. a) powerful b) deliberate c) gentle d) optimistic	20. a) insensitive b) judgemental c) boring d) undisciplined
21. a) logical b) emotional c) agreeable d) popular	22. a) always right b) guilt prone c) unenthusiastic d) uncommitted
23. a) pragmatic b) well-behaved c) accepting d) spontaneous	24. a) merciless b) thoughtful c) uninvolved d) a show-off
25. a) task-oriented b) sincere c) diplomatic d) lively	26. a) tactless b) hard to please c) lazy d) loud
27. a) direct b) creative c) adaptable d) a performer	28. a) calculating b) self-rightous c) self-deprecating d) disorganized
29. a) confident b) disciplined c) pleasant d) charismatic	30. a) intimidating b) careful c) unproductive d) afraid to face facts

SITUATIONS
Now respond to the following situations. Again be honest, choose your most typical response.

31. If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:
a) Driven, direct, and delegating.
b) Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.
c) Patient, adaptable, and tactful.
d) Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

32. When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threated by my partner, I:
a) Fight back with facts and anger.
b) Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.
c) Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.
d) Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

33. For me, life is most meaningful when it:
a) Is task-oriented and productive.
b) Is filled with people and purpose.
c) Is free of pressure and stress.
d) Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

34. As a child, I was:
a) Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.
b) Well-behaved, caring, and/or depressed.
c) Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.
d) Too Talkative, happy, and/or playful.

35. As an adult, I am:
a) Opionated, determined, and/or bossy.
b) Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.
c) Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.
d) Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

36. As a parent, I am:
a) Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.
b) Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.
c) Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed.
d) Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

37. In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:
a) Verbally stubborn about facts.
b) Concerned about others' feelings and principles.
c) Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.
d) Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

38. If my friend was in trouble, I would be:
a) Protective, resourceful, and recommend solutions.
b) Concerned, empathetic, and loyal-regardless of the problem.
c) Supportive, patient, and a good listener.
d) Nonjudgemental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

39. When making decisions, I am:
a) Assertive, articulate, and logical.
b) Deliberate, precise, and cautious.
c) Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.
d) Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

40. When I fail, I feel:
a) Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.
b) Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression-I dwell on it.
c) Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.
d) Embarrassed and nervous-seeking to escape the situation.

41. If someone crosses me:
a) I am angered, and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.
b) I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.
c) I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.
d) I want to avoid confontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

42. Work is:
a) A most productive way to spend one's time.
b) A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.
c) A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.
d) A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

43. In social situations, I am most often:
a) Feared by others.
b) Admired by others.
c) Protected by others.
d) Envied by others.

44. In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:
a) Approved of and right.
b) Understood, appreciated, and intimate.
c) Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.
d) Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

45. To feel alive and positive, I seek:
a) Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.
b) Security, creativity, and purpose.
c) Acceptance and safety.
d) Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.